Outing Yourself
Michaelango Signorele
 
This book details the psychological and political importance of coming out of the closet, and gives a formula of sorts to help the reader come out too. This is, in my opinion, an excellent book.


Permanent Partners
Betty Berzon
 
Betty Berzon details the importance in conceiving of same-gender relationships as permanent. She explains why this is essential for the relationship, and the individuals involved. I highly recommend this book for anyone who has been in, is in, or wants to be in a same-sex relationship.


Coming Out of Shame
Girsh Kaufman and Lev Raphael
 
Kaufman and Raphael explore shame, and the way it is used to oppress and control the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender communities. This book is slightly more clinical than some of the others on this list, but it is still very readable and interesting.


Becoming a Man
Paul Monette
 
This is a coming-of-age autobiography, detailing the author’s struggles with his same-sex orientation. This book is humorous and compelling.


Stone Butch Blues
Leslie Feinberg
 
Definitely one of the best books I’ve ever read, this semi-autobiographical novel details the struggles of a young transgendered person attempting to fit into society. Feinberg’s novel is quotable, thought-provoking, heartbreaking, uplifting, and encouraging.
Transgender Warrior
Leslie Feinberg
 
In this work, Feinberg traces the history of transgender people throughout the ages. It is an excellent presentation of a neglected story.



The Politics of Reality
Marilyn Frye
 
This is a collection of essays by Marilyn Frye, a noted feminist. These essays are unapologetic and liberating.



Gay American History
Ned Katz
 
Katz presents the role of lesbians, bisexuals, and gay men throughout American history. This book made me say, “I didn’t know that!” over and over again. This is an excellent resource for anyone who would like to know more about the role that LGBT people played in the history of the U.S.


The Kid
Dan Savage
 
This is a witty, honest and emotional look at the adoption process from the eyes of a urban gay couple. This book is thoughtful and heartwarming. Savage also looks at the political aspects of same-sex parenting.


The Velveteen Father
Jesse Green
 
Green chronicles his experience with his partner and his partner’s adopted son. He presents a frank portrayal of the wonders, pleasures and trials of parenting in general, and same-sex parenting in particular.